luna question #6

February 27, 2009

luna question #6

i'm a bit worried because the Thursday question section on luna's website doesn't seem to have been updated for a few weeks, which means i may have to look elsewhere to get my question to answer every Friday from now on. But for today i'm using a luna question from earlier this year which i haven't answered yet:

"Marks are a result of many forms of play in BDSM. What are your favourite ways to help them heal quickly, or heck, make them last a bit longer?

First of all i have to say that i think i'm quite lucky when it comes to marks, though i guess it depends how you look at it. i know some subs mark really really easily and so their Doms have to be careful about the areas of the body they use during play because otherwise there will be evidence in places which will get seen, and then maybe questions will be asked. But on the other end of the scale are those subs who very rarely mark, even from the harshest scene, and they get quite disappointed at the lack of evidence on their body for them to admire and be proud of. i'm somewhere in the middle - i do mark from harsher play such as caning, heavy flogging, etc. but there are certain implements that Sir can use on me that won't leave a mark, so He is pretty much free to explore all parts of my body without fear of leaving conspicuous evidence (especially important when i go swimming etc.) And my marks stay around for long enough for me to admire them, but not long enough to cause concerns.

Now to answer the question: i never try to prolong marks and neither does Sir as He thinks it would be harmful to my body to do this, and also because He doesn't like to play on top of still-healing marks, so this would restrict Him more. It's actually in my rules to take steps to promote the healing of any marks or sore spots i get from the result of play:

"#25. i must use the Vitamin E cream my Master has provided on any areas of my body which are healing, in order to promote this process."

i do this everyday after my shower, when necessary, until the marks are gone. To be honest, i don't really care about the marks as much as some other subs seem to - i like looking at them if i get them, but i don't feel let down if a heavy play session results in no marks at all, or horrified if i end up with lots. They're just an added extra to some play i guess, though as i said before i know other subs (and Doms) feel a lot more strongly about them than i do - anyone care to comment?