Responsibilities

August 31, 2009

Responsibilities

Someone on the chatroom the other day made a comment about how Sir's wedding vows had made her cry, and the reason was that He mentioned His responsibilities which go along with being my Master. And it made me realise 2 things: firstly how important it is for Masters to recognise the huge responsibilities which come with owning a slave, and secondly how often i have seen this responsibility lacking in the comments and behaviours of 'Doms' on the chatroom and how this is linked to me being able to tell which are true Doms and which are wanabees.

Gonna pause at this point to apologise if parts of this post are not very clear, but i am nice and floaty at the moment from a session with Sir this morning, while Poppy was at my sister's, and i doubt i'll be bothered to go back later to edit this post, so you'll just have to try your best to make sense of it - sorry!

Anyway, getting back to the point of this post. i think it is really important for a Master to realise that when He takes on a slave as His own, collars her, takes away all her control and choices, etc. that it's not all going to be fun and games and endless blow jobs and having someone wait on Him hand and foot, He has to accept that He now has 2 people's lives to be responsible for and in a way He needs to take even more care of His slave than He does Himself because she has no opportunity to make decisions for herself. And also because of a slave's mindset, often we tend to put our own needs to the bottom of our list of priorities, which can end up being harmful to us in the long run. So it is up to the Master to make sure the slave's essential needs are being met, so that she remains healthy as a human being and in her best condition to carry on serving. If you think about it, there are big responsibilities which come with owning an animal as a pet, or a horse or whatever, so these responsibilities are so much more when you own another human being, seeing as people are so much more complex than animals.

But it seems that lots of so-called Doms don't realise this, and they are still stuck in the mindset of "I am Dom, you fall to your knees and obey", even when they've never met you before. It gets so annoying to see that attitude, but after a while in the chatrooms most subs just roll their eyes and ignore it and concentrate their energies on the few Doms who have proved to be more than just a capped nick eager for a blow-job. Because there are some genuine Doms out there, who understand the needs of the subs, who want them to get something out of it as well as themselves, who care about the feelings and well-being of those they play/chat with, who take the time to check limits before a scene and provide aftercare afterwards, all of which fall into the 'responsibility' category for online interactions as far as i'm concerned. How much more then must fall into that category in a 24/7 r/l dynamic?!

Rant over :)