mentoring

October 17, 2009

mentoring

i wrote a bit about this before, when Sir was being a Mentor to flame, and i guess that's the usual way of how it's done in BDSM - that a more experienced Dom mentors a new/vulnerable sub to help them gain experience and knowledge and understanding whilst guiding and protecting them from some of the many pitfalls along the way. In Sir and flame's case the Mentoring gradually tailed off as Poppy and work (and me as a slave, but Sir says He doesn't mind any of them, especially me) became more demanding on His time, and flame got collared by an online Master and so didn't need Sir in the way she once did. Anyway, what i wanted to write this post about today is a slightly different aspect of mentoring which has cropped up in my life recently, which is when one sub mentors another. And the reason i am mentioning it is because i have been contacted by a reader of this blog to ask if i will consider being her mentor! At first i was like 'me?' because i can still have a tendency at times to think of myself as new and inexperienced, but when i looked back at this blog and how far i have come and all the experiences i have had and things i have learnt, i realised that i am neither new nor inexperienced, so i had a chat with Sir about it and He pointed out to me all my qualities which make me suitable to be a mentor and all the knowledge and advice i have to pass on. So i have decided to give this mentoring thing a try, through emails at first to see how that goes. The sub i will be mentoring seems absolutely lovely, and so keen and enthusiastic and sweet and friendly, and she has lots of similarities to me so that helps. i won't publically name her here unless she gives me permission or chooses to identify herself, but i hope to be able to write a few more posts about how it's going from my point of view and maybe even be able to give advice to others on the best way to be a sub mentor, while i learn as i go along. Oh, and if i'm successful in this venture i get to cross #40 and #68 off my '101 list' which is always a good thing! Wish me luck :)