Implications of a 'no matter what' clause

January 10, 2010

Implications of a 'no matter what' clause

A little while ago i wrote a post saying that me and Sir have a 'no matter what' clause in our BDSM relationship, which means we would stay together no matter what happens. Whilst this gives me confidence and stability as His slave because i know He would stand by me even if i failed Him or strayed off the path, it also has some more negative implications which i have been thinking about since then. For example:

~ a 'no matter what' clause means that i should stay with Sir even if His personality changed and He became abusive, violent, dangerous, etc. Say for instance He developed a pyschiatric disorder or something. That would be very difficult, especially if He started giving me orders which were unsafe or carrying out dangerous scenes with me or something. i think in that case i would have to refuse His orders, thus temporarily releasing myself as His slave (because He would not be in a fit mind to do so), but stand by Him in the hope that He recovered and regained His former self as my Master. Tricky situation though.

~ a 'no matter what' clause also means that theoretically we should stay with each other even if one of us cheats and has an affair with someone else. That would make it very difficult to maintain the Master/slave relationship because surely the resentment and jealousy would eat away at the foundation of trust, honesty and loyalty we have spent years building up. And it would be difficult to trust each other again, because in the back of the mind would be the thought that the other person could easily stray again in the future. Our family life as husband/wife would be severely damaged too, so i see this situation as being very difficult again.

~ a 'no matter what' clause also means that we should stay by each other even if one of us suffered ill health which prevented us from fulfilling our role of Master/slave. i actually think this one would be the easiest to deal with of the three, because presumably our personalities would remain intact, so we could fulfill our role emotionally and mentally even if not physically. i would be happy to remain with Sir even if He couldn't 'perform' as a Master physically for health reasons, and i think He would say the same of me.

So some things to think about when contemplating a 'no matter what' clause, though i am hopeful that mine and Sir's relationship never has to test out any of these scenarios.