February 16, 2010
formspring.me #2
I don't know much about you and Sir, I just started reading your blog, but if you and Sir had an age difference of more than 15 years but no more than 25 years do you think things would be different?Hopefully you and Sir both answer. :)
OK, my answer first:
there is an age gap of 13 and a bit years between me and Sir - he just turned 44 and i'll be 31 in August, which i'm aware may seem like a lot to some people, but i have always tended to go for older men anyway even in my vanilla relationships, so my friends and family are used to that by now. i don't think age really matters in a relationship, but having said that i wouldn't feel comfortable with an extreme age gap like going out with a 75 year old or something! If Sir was 25 years older than me that would make Him 56 which seems quite old but still younger than my parents. i think in the end it's down to the people involved, but obviously there will be those who disapprove and try to talk them out of it. But if you've found your 'one' it would be a shame to let something like age stand in the way.
So on the whole, i think no it wouldn't be different with a bigger age gap.
Sir's answer: I have never really taken age into consideration when choosing a submissive or slave; I have owned a slave who was significantly older than Me, a couple of submissives who were about the same age as Myself, and another like libby who was significantly younger. Having said that, I think when the age gap gets wider it does need to be thought about more carefully. For instance, were libby 25 years younger than Me she would only be 18 years old now and would have been 14 when we met which would make me a bit of a predator! I'm not entirely sure I would feel comfortable with so large a gap, but this could of course change should I be older than I currently am, as age gaps tend to seem less the older a person gets.
With a significant age gap (and I do count 13 years as significant as well), certain factors need to be taken into consideration : what will happen as one partner ages well ahead of the other? What if their health deteriorates while the other partner is still in their prime of life? How will that affect the sexual relationship? the D/s relationship? the scening/play element? the hobbies and leisure activities engaged in? the children (if there are any)? What will happen when one partner dies well before the other? or develops dementia or other afflictions associated with old age and needs to be cared for?
All of these are questions which should be thought about before embarking on a relationship with a significant age gap, but none of them are in themselves a reason not to become involved in that relationship. There are many factors worse than a large age gap that people can and do cope with and have very successful and mutually enjoyable relationships, both D/s and vanilla. Ultimately it depends on whether the benefits are likely to outweigh the downfalls, which is something that needs to be weighed up for each and every potential relationship.
Thanks for your question, and good luck!
there is an age gap of 13 and a bit years between me and Sir - he just turned 44 and i'll be 31 in August, which i'm aware may seem like a lot to some people, but i have always tended to go for older men anyway even in my vanilla relationships, so my friends and family are used to that by now. i don't think age really matters in a relationship, but having said that i wouldn't feel comfortable with an extreme age gap like going out with a 75 year old or something! If Sir was 25 years older than me that would make Him 56 which seems quite old but still younger than my parents. i think in the end it's down to the people involved, but obviously there will be those who disapprove and try to talk them out of it. But if you've found your 'one' it would be a shame to let something like age stand in the way.
So on the whole, i think no it wouldn't be different with a bigger age gap.
Sir's answer: I have never really taken age into consideration when choosing a submissive or slave; I have owned a slave who was significantly older than Me, a couple of submissives who were about the same age as Myself, and another like libby who was significantly younger. Having said that, I think when the age gap gets wider it does need to be thought about more carefully. For instance, were libby 25 years younger than Me she would only be 18 years old now and would have been 14 when we met which would make me a bit of a predator! I'm not entirely sure I would feel comfortable with so large a gap, but this could of course change should I be older than I currently am, as age gaps tend to seem less the older a person gets.
With a significant age gap (and I do count 13 years as significant as well), certain factors need to be taken into consideration : what will happen as one partner ages well ahead of the other? What if their health deteriorates while the other partner is still in their prime of life? How will that affect the sexual relationship? the D/s relationship? the scening/play element? the hobbies and leisure activities engaged in? the children (if there are any)? What will happen when one partner dies well before the other? or develops dementia or other afflictions associated with old age and needs to be cared for?
All of these are questions which should be thought about before embarking on a relationship with a significant age gap, but none of them are in themselves a reason not to become involved in that relationship. There are many factors worse than a large age gap that people can and do cope with and have very successful and mutually enjoyable relationships, both D/s and vanilla. Ultimately it depends on whether the benefits are likely to outweigh the downfalls, which is something that needs to be weighed up for each and every potential relationship.
Thanks for your question, and good luck!
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1 comments:
Thabnks for sharing on the age gap. That was very insightful.
12:03 PMBut I don't think 13 years ia huge gap and things have obviously worked for the two of you.
FD
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