April 29, 2010
formspring.me #31
This is for both you and Sir to answer. How did you both know that you had found "the one"? And do you think that there are some things you would have approached differently?
i'm afraid that Sir won't answer this question as He says most of it He covered in His previous response, but i am still allowed to answer so i'll give my view on it.
i think in vanilla relationships as well as BDSM ones, there can sometimes be the feeling of finding your 'One', because you meet someone who is just so perfect for you, who brings out all your good qualities and compliments your personality so well, who seems to understand you and 'get' you when perhaps others don't, who you find yourself falling in love with so deeply, that it just makes you feel that this is the person you are destined to be with. Sir was that 'One' for me and He tells me i am that 'One' for Him too, so i feel very lucky that we were able to meet and discover each other. Some people never find their 'One' and that makes me very sad for them.
i think in the beginning i saw Sir as more of a Mentor or teacher, but that didn't last very long and the way i saw Him kind of kept evolving with every contact we had. i don't remember there being one defining moment when i realised that i loved Him and that He was my 'One', but i know it was after we started meeting up in real-life but before i accepted His collar. i truly do believe that should anything happen to cause our relationship to end, then i would never ever be able to find anyone else to replace Sir, i.e. there isn't another 'One' out there for me besides Him. i could probably be happy in a relationship with someone else, but it wouldn't approach the same level as i have with Sir and i wouldn't be as close to that person, because they wouldn't be my 'One'. i know some people don't believe in that concept, but i do and i have experience of it personally now!
As for the second part of the question, is there anything i would have approached differently... i'm assuming this means with regards to how Sir and i met and the beginning of our relationship. i think that researching online and then placing an ad for an online Mentor was the right thing for me to do at the time, because i had got to the point where i needed answers and advice from a actual person but i wasn't ready for a real-life D/s relationship or even play. Had i followed up a different response to Sir's it's probable that i would have been trained by that person for a while and then gone on to join the local munches, as i know i wouldn't have entered into a real-life relationship unless the person lived near me and none of the others did. i may well have ended up with Sir by that route too, as many of His Dom friends go to the local munch and so i might have ended up meeting or being introduced to Him through them. Lots of them say it is obvious to them how compatable me and Sir are, and they would have known He was looking for another sub at that time so they may have arranged for us to meet. Of course that's just conjecture, and it could have all turned out differently, but i think when the 'One' for you is living so close, often fate steps in to bring you together no matter what, so i do like to think that Sir and i would have ended up as we are now eventually, no matter which route i took!
i think in vanilla relationships as well as BDSM ones, there can sometimes be the feeling of finding your 'One', because you meet someone who is just so perfect for you, who brings out all your good qualities and compliments your personality so well, who seems to understand you and 'get' you when perhaps others don't, who you find yourself falling in love with so deeply, that it just makes you feel that this is the person you are destined to be with. Sir was that 'One' for me and He tells me i am that 'One' for Him too, so i feel very lucky that we were able to meet and discover each other. Some people never find their 'One' and that makes me very sad for them.
i think in the beginning i saw Sir as more of a Mentor or teacher, but that didn't last very long and the way i saw Him kind of kept evolving with every contact we had. i don't remember there being one defining moment when i realised that i loved Him and that He was my 'One', but i know it was after we started meeting up in real-life but before i accepted His collar. i truly do believe that should anything happen to cause our relationship to end, then i would never ever be able to find anyone else to replace Sir, i.e. there isn't another 'One' out there for me besides Him. i could probably be happy in a relationship with someone else, but it wouldn't approach the same level as i have with Sir and i wouldn't be as close to that person, because they wouldn't be my 'One'. i know some people don't believe in that concept, but i do and i have experience of it personally now!
As for the second part of the question, is there anything i would have approached differently... i'm assuming this means with regards to how Sir and i met and the beginning of our relationship. i think that researching online and then placing an ad for an online Mentor was the right thing for me to do at the time, because i had got to the point where i needed answers and advice from a actual person but i wasn't ready for a real-life D/s relationship or even play. Had i followed up a different response to Sir's it's probable that i would have been trained by that person for a while and then gone on to join the local munches, as i know i wouldn't have entered into a real-life relationship unless the person lived near me and none of the others did. i may well have ended up with Sir by that route too, as many of His Dom friends go to the local munch and so i might have ended up meeting or being introduced to Him through them. Lots of them say it is obvious to them how compatable me and Sir are, and they would have known He was looking for another sub at that time so they may have arranged for us to meet. Of course that's just conjecture, and it could have all turned out differently, but i think when the 'One' for you is living so close, often fate steps in to bring you together no matter what, so i do like to think that Sir and i would have ended up as we are now eventually, no matter which route i took!
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For me there is not one defining moment either, but early on in our relationship I realized that together he and I would be able to make it through anything.
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