May 31, 2010
formspring.me #37
Hi libby, did you find that once you accepted your natural submissiveness that you grew in confidence? That something kind of "fell into place" for you?
Yes and no. This is kind of a complicated question to answer because i was really unsure of my own submissiveness at first and didn't really recognise it. For quite a while i thought i wanted to be 'kinky' only, i.e. experiment with bondage and stuff in the bedroom. Then when i started researching more deeply on the internet and found out about Doms and subs i realised that my personality makes me a natural and innate sub, but i still wasn't very confident in myself - for instance i was adamant in the beginning that i would enter into a D/s relationship online only, that it would be too much for me in real-life. i understand what you mean about something 'falling into place' but that didn't really apply to me as before then i had been happy in what i considered to be vanilla relationships, i wasn't like others who grow up feeling they are different and one day discover this whole other lifestyle they have been searching for their whole lives.
With hindsight i can see that i have always been drawn to naturally dominant men, even if they weren't full Dominants, but i never really had that 'falling into place' feeling. It was more of an 'opening up' or 'branching out' feeling when i started being trained by Sir and discovered more about myself. And my confidence grew gradually along the way, not once i accepted my natural submissivemess but a long time after that. i guess i still have struggles with confidence now, but nothing like to the extent i used to.
Hope that made sense and thanks for the question. More replies coming soon!
With hindsight i can see that i have always been drawn to naturally dominant men, even if they weren't full Dominants, but i never really had that 'falling into place' feeling. It was more of an 'opening up' or 'branching out' feeling when i started being trained by Sir and discovered more about myself. And my confidence grew gradually along the way, not once i accepted my natural submissivemess but a long time after that. i guess i still have struggles with confidence now, but nothing like to the extent i used to.
Hope that made sense and thanks for the question. More replies coming soon!
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Hi libby that was my question! thanks for answering, great answer btw! :)
9:04 PMhi libby,
9:50 AMeverything worth in life is a gradual pain staking process,,,
i guess so is confidence building..
hugs Alujna
libby-interesting for me, as a dom in bloom, to read about how you considered this a branching out process. My lizard has always been happy and confident, but since I have started her on the path of submission, she seems to be even more content and loving than ever. I think she, too, is slowly branching out rather than finding a groove, in fact, we both are together.
11:55 PMThanks for the interesting post!
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