May 16, 2010
formspring.me #35
What is the preponderant feeling when you answer a question about your sexual life? embarrassment, arousal, pride...?
i'm not in the mood for deep-thinking today as i have a lot of other things on my mind, so i'm answering a couple of 'quickie' questions from formspring.
~ the predominant feeling when i answer a question about my sexual life *online* (i.e. in a BDSM chatroom, on my blog, in an email, etc) is a little bit of shyness or embarrassment. i don't really feel aroused, unless i am recounting some hot sex that Sir and i had, and i don't feel pride exactly, but the embarrassment i feel isn't because i am ashamed of what we do, it comes from my natural shyness. In real-life i don't discuss my sexual life with others!
Next question:
First time BDSM. How do I get into the lifestyle?
~ i've kind of answered this before on my blog so i suggest you read back some entries. Also you should read around the subject first, visit some information sites (there's some listed on my blog) to get an idea of what exactly you are interested in. Then you need to start 'meeting' people, whether that be in an online chatroom, at a local fetish group, etc., and hopefully from there you can find someone to engage in whatever BDSM activities you are seeking - from casual play, to training or a full M/s relationship. Just remember the usual cautions about not giving away too many personal details too soon, and always being safe the first few times you meet up with someone new.
Next question:
When your kids ask how you met, what will you say?
~ the same thing we answer when friends/family/colleagues/acquaintances have asked where we met: we got chatting online, realised we got on well, decided to meet in person as we lived near to each other, and it went from there. So depending on your viewpoint we either met online, or in a cafe! (And there's no lies in any of that account, it just neglects to mention the BDSM aspect of the meeting, as we neglect to mention the BDSM aspect of our relationship in general - some information doesn't need to be shared).
Thanks for the questions, i have plenty more to answer. Please be patient if i haven't got round to your's yet!
~ the predominant feeling when i answer a question about my sexual life *online* (i.e. in a BDSM chatroom, on my blog, in an email, etc) is a little bit of shyness or embarrassment. i don't really feel aroused, unless i am recounting some hot sex that Sir and i had, and i don't feel pride exactly, but the embarrassment i feel isn't because i am ashamed of what we do, it comes from my natural shyness. In real-life i don't discuss my sexual life with others!
Next question:
First time BDSM. How do I get into the lifestyle?
~ i've kind of answered this before on my blog so i suggest you read back some entries. Also you should read around the subject first, visit some information sites (there's some listed on my blog) to get an idea of what exactly you are interested in. Then you need to start 'meeting' people, whether that be in an online chatroom, at a local fetish group, etc., and hopefully from there you can find someone to engage in whatever BDSM activities you are seeking - from casual play, to training or a full M/s relationship. Just remember the usual cautions about not giving away too many personal details too soon, and always being safe the first few times you meet up with someone new.
Next question:
When your kids ask how you met, what will you say?
~ the same thing we answer when friends/family/colleagues/acquaintances have asked where we met: we got chatting online, realised we got on well, decided to meet in person as we lived near to each other, and it went from there. So depending on your viewpoint we either met online, or in a cafe! (And there's no lies in any of that account, it just neglects to mention the BDSM aspect of the meeting, as we neglect to mention the BDSM aspect of our relationship in general - some information doesn't need to be shared).
Thanks for the questions, i have plenty more to answer. Please be patient if i haven't got round to your's yet!
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