1950s ideal?

July 27, 2010

1950s ideal?

i've mentioned before that my ideal lifestyle is more like the traditional housewife/mother role from the past, and i think the closest model to the way i would like it to be is the one from the 1950s. Hence the pictures at the top of this blog, and the one in this post. i think that women in those days spent time on their appearance, to make themselves pleasing for their husbands, and though i wouldn't necessarily want to copy the hairstyles or fashion myself i like the way they tried to look sexy and alluring, but also kind of naive and innocent at the same time. It's like the 'whooops is the hoover lifting up my skirt?' picture, where the woman is sexual but almost by 'accident', not like the openly slutty fashions of today. i like to look pretty for my Sir but not slutty, and luckily my Sir does not require me to dress in an overly provocative way.

i watched a TV programme the other day about women (and men) who have chosen to live a 1950s lifestyle, because they do not like the modern world. These people (sometimes they are couples/married) have decorated and furnished their houses in an authentic 1950s way, some even have a 1950s car, and they dress and do their hair and make-up in the 1950s style. Many of the women do not work, they stay at home and do all the housework instead, and the chores in the house are allocated according to traditional gender roles (men do the car work, DIY, gardening, etc; women do the cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc). i think it is going a little over the top to decorate your home and to dress in the 1950s style, especially when i found out that it was mainly for show anyway and most of them had laptops and a microwave hidden away somewhere! But i do like the 1950s values, where the man was the breadwinner and the head of the house, and the woman was expected to keep the house running and provide for her man.

Sometimes i think it would have been easier for me if i'd been born in the 1920s so that i could have been a wife in the 1950s. Then people wouldn't have thought the dynamic between me and Sir at all different from the norm, although i guess i prolly wouldn't have even found out about BDSM because i'd have had no internet. But i reckon i could have fulfilled my need to serve just be living a traditional 1950s marriage, so that would have been fine. It's hard to know for sure, but sometimes i feel like i am out of sync with modern society and would be better off living in a different time or place where what is considered 'normal' more closely matches the way i have chosen to live my life and my marriage in particular.