Relief

August 25, 2010

Relief

Some of you might remember that we had a bit of difficulty with Sir's mum before William was born, and the nasty comments she made about him. Since then she hasn't been back to our house, nor have we visited her, though Sir did phone to let her know that the twins had arrived safely. We decided to leave her be and let her approach us when she was ready, and earlier this week she phoned to ask to come round and see her grandchildren, which happened earlier this afternoon.

Obviously i was very nervous about this visit because i didn't want there to be any conflict or bad atmosphere in the house, but neither did i want her to be prevented from seeing her grandchildren. Poppy really loves her grandma, and it is important for her to see her, but at the same time i wasn't willing to have her in my house if she was going to have a negative attitude towards William - that just wouldn't be fair on him. Sir talked to me before she came and told me to be as relaxed and natural as possible with His mum, and trust Him to deal with any situations which might arise. But in the end she was absolutely fine, partly due to Poppy and partly due to Sir's cunning.

You see, Poppy is very very proud of her new brothers and will excitedly introduce them to any visitor, so when her grandma arrived and after giving Poppy presents, Poppy got the photos out (because the twins were asleep upstairs) and started chatting to her grandma about Finn and "Willum", and her enthusiasm was infectious because when she said "granma holds da babies yes?", Sir's mum replied that she would love to see them, but she didn't want to disturb them if they were asleep. Sir said He would go and check on them, and He came back holding William but said "William is sleeping still so I brought Finn" and winked at me. So Sir's mum spent a while cooing over the baby given to her, rocking him and singing to him, and pronounced him 'adorable'. She gave us some presents for him and was about to give the other presents to Sir, but He said "I'll just go and see if Finn is awake", to which she blinked in surprise and said "I thought this was Finn". Sir very straight-faced replied "is that what I said? No sorry, that's William, Finn was still sleeping" and there was a brilliant moment of surprise when Sir's mum looked down at William and said "he's such a lovely little boy........ I think I was wrong to say the things I did". You have no idea how happy i was to hear her say that, and then Sir went and got Finn and she cooed over him for a while and gave us some presents for him too, and she was just being like a lovely grandma to all 3 children, which is all i ever wanted really.

So it looks like things are going to be fine with the mother-in-law and our children will have 2 grandmas and 1 grandad who love them very much :)