August 29, 2011
formspring.me #80
I know you talk to Sir and write in your blog when you have issues with your submission or your life (like coping with William's diagnosis). How does Sir work through his problems? Is there a tendency for Doms to bottle things up?Sir tends to work through problems by Himself to start with and then He will sit down with me during one of our 'free talk' times and discuss the issue with me too, stating what thoughts He has had about it, setting out the different options and then asking for my opinion. He will listen if i have a different opinion to His or have an alternative suggestion to the ones He has already thought of, and then He comes to a decision and tells me what that is. With things which have no solution, such as William's condition, we talk frequently and openly about our feelings and how we are coping and Sir will admit to me when He is struggling so that i can give Him extra support during those times. i like it that Sir is comfortable enough in His Dominance not to feel threatened by opening Himself up like that to me and that He isn't afraid to admit to His weaknesses and accept support from me in them.
i know when Sir has a problem or issue He is working through, because He will get very quiet and take Himself away (usually to His study area in the converted garage) and the best thing to do is just give Him time to process everything and wait for Him to come to me when He is ready. That's also what happens when He is grumpy or angry for some reason and again i just give Him time and space until He is feeling better again. i guess on the whole, Doms are likely to bottle things up more than subs because we have it drummed into us that we must be completely open and communicate all our negative feelings and issues to our Sirs so that they can help us work through them. But i haven't found that to be the case with my Sir, so i guess the bottling-up thing depends on individual personality as well.
Are you and your Master monogamous? You've mentioned playing with other women as part of your training, but your "Our Story" post also says you guys aren't sexually involved with other people "in that way".
Yes, Sir and i are monogamous and it was very important for that to be made clear to me before i accepted His collar otherwise i wouldn't have been able to enter into the relationship. i wouldn't be able to cope with Sir playing/scening with other women, let alone having a sexual or D/s relationship with anyone else. i do flirt and play and scene online with other people (male and female, Dominant and submissive), but only because Sir encourages it, and i have played sexually with other girls in real-life and been trained and scened with Doms and Dommes in real-life, because Sir has required it. But He sets strict rules, such as no other man's cock is allowed in my pussy or bottom, so in that way i am monogamous as i don't have sexual intercourse with any other man (though i have given blow jobs on request). The reason i wrote that statement in 'Our story' post was that people were asking if Poppy was definitely Sir's when i was pregnant with her, presuming that i had sex with other men and i don't!
When did your Sir stop having other subs? Did you ever meet his other subs?
i think this question has been asked before, but i'll answer it again. Sir has had several subs in the past, including having two at once at one time, but that didn't work out too well hence why He is now a one sub only Man! His last sub before me He released about a year before He replied to my online request for a Mentor/Trainer. And i haven't met any of His previous subs because i think it would make me start comparing myself to them and that's never a good road to go down. Sir has told me some things about them and that's all i need to know.
i know when Sir has a problem or issue He is working through, because He will get very quiet and take Himself away (usually to His study area in the converted garage) and the best thing to do is just give Him time to process everything and wait for Him to come to me when He is ready. That's also what happens when He is grumpy or angry for some reason and again i just give Him time and space until He is feeling better again. i guess on the whole, Doms are likely to bottle things up more than subs because we have it drummed into us that we must be completely open and communicate all our negative feelings and issues to our Sirs so that they can help us work through them. But i haven't found that to be the case with my Sir, so i guess the bottling-up thing depends on individual personality as well.
Are you and your Master monogamous? You've mentioned playing with other women as part of your training, but your "Our Story" post also says you guys aren't sexually involved with other people "in that way".
Yes, Sir and i are monogamous and it was very important for that to be made clear to me before i accepted His collar otherwise i wouldn't have been able to enter into the relationship. i wouldn't be able to cope with Sir playing/scening with other women, let alone having a sexual or D/s relationship with anyone else. i do flirt and play and scene online with other people (male and female, Dominant and submissive), but only because Sir encourages it, and i have played sexually with other girls in real-life and been trained and scened with Doms and Dommes in real-life, because Sir has required it. But He sets strict rules, such as no other man's cock is allowed in my pussy or bottom, so in that way i am monogamous as i don't have sexual intercourse with any other man (though i have given blow jobs on request). The reason i wrote that statement in 'Our story' post was that people were asking if Poppy was definitely Sir's when i was pregnant with her, presuming that i had sex with other men and i don't!
When did your Sir stop having other subs? Did you ever meet his other subs?
i think this question has been asked before, but i'll answer it again. Sir has had several subs in the past, including having two at once at one time, but that didn't work out too well hence why He is now a one sub only Man! His last sub before me He released about a year before He replied to my online request for a Mentor/Trainer. And i haven't met any of His previous subs because i think it would make me start comparing myself to them and that's never a good road to go down. Sir has told me some things about them and that's all i need to know.
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