November 27, 2011

formspring.me #85

I'm 20 and I'm having a hard time...does it get better?  Were you lonely before you met Him?  How did you cope?

i think it was different for me because before i met Sir i thought of myself as 'vanilla' (not that i knew that term, but i considered myself 'normal' and not kinky in any way), so i was perfectly happy with 'normal' boyfriends. i just happened to be attracted to men that were older than me and men that were naturally dominant and in control. Once i found out that i had an interest in kinky sex (which is all i thought my interest extended to in the beginning) i met Sir soon after and He led me through my training and discovery in this area and we have been together ever since. So i was one of the lucky ones, i never went through a time of waiting and wishing for my perfect Master to come along, or felt lonely or left out or different. i was never stuck in a vanilla relationship feeling that my needs weren't being met or endlessly searching the web for that one genuine Dom. i'm sorry i can't be of more help but i would say hang in there, do all you can to talk to and meet up with like-minded people so you don't feel so alone and i hope you find what you're looking for soon.


1 comments:

Koraline said...

To the 20 year old:

I was there. It gets better. It's difficult and online is a big help, but you just have to have faith. I also found this article really helpful.
http://www.submissiveguide.com/2011/10/to-be-submissive-without-a-dominant/

Hope that helps,
Happy Christmas!
Koral

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