December 04, 2011
About Dominants
Honesty
Trustworthiness
Integrity
Self-Control
Sense of Humor (even at himself)
Capacity to Love, Be Loved and to Express that Love
Desire to Learn and Grow, both for himself and for his partner
Dependability
SELF AWARE
i have said before that i consider Sir to be naturally Dominant, not in an arrogant arsehole got-to-be-in-charge-of-everything way, but there are many personality traits He possesses which make Him naturally dominant in all of His relationships, in the way He interacts with people, in a work situation, in His private life, etc. So here below is a list of the natural qualities i believe Sir has that make Him a good Dom:
- air of authority
- confidence
- practicality
- trustworthiness
- honesty
- good communicator
- good listener
- empathetic
- self-control
- consistency
- integrity
- dependability
- self-awareness
- sense of humour
- compassion
I think that people who possess the above characteristics are likely to act in a dominant way in their lives, even if they are not Dominants in the BDSM sense. Of course other people will possess some or most or all of the above traits to some extent, but it is when someone has them in abundance that they make a good Dom/me. IMHO of course :)
Sorry for not going into more detail on my thoughts on these characteristics and why they are so important to my Sir being a good Dom. Things are a little crazy round here at the moment trying to get ready for Christmas and our Disneyland Paris trip straight after, keep the household running, look after the kids and keep up with all William's therapies and the clubs we go to, teach Poppy who is super thirsty for knowledge right now, stop Finn from destroying the whole house and the Christmas tree in particular, be a good wife and slave to Sir and so on... you get the picture. But i'm very happy for anyone to leave their comments on this post and tell me the qualities you think a good Dom/me should have. Thanks!
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8 comments:
Thank you for sharing these qualities with us libby and i totally agree with both yourself and swan, i dont think there is anymore that i could add to this, but you do notice a Dom out of other Doms who has natural traits in both the bdsm world and every day life.
2:44 PMgosh you are a busy person and i really hope you enjoy the disney land trip, ive been to disney in florida with my kids when they were younger and they had a ball as well as myself of course...lol
i hope you are feeling a little better today too.
Hugs
blossom x
I think you summed it up quite well.
7:20 PMThe one I'd add, Libby, would be creativity. If we Doms are going to be in control, we have to be able to imagine what we're going to do with that control!
2:28 AMThanks for your post and sharing the always interesting details of your life.
You had a lot of insights into what makes a good Dom.
6:22 PMAnd, wow, you have a full plate. How do you keep all the balls in the air at the same time? Good luck.
FD
Your list was thoughtful and excellent ... but I'm still laughing at the attached illustration. It captures so many dominant friends perfectly *grin*
1:04 AMI think the biggest one for me is consistency. Without it I think everything falls apart. Of course the other traits are important as well, but consistency is definitely the cornerstone in my book.
7:36 AMI can sympathize with the full plate you are juggling. It's a lot of work keeping everyone provided for as well as taking care of yourself. We are taking our family to Disneyland for Christmas. It's going to be crowded and crazy but it will be one holiday I'm sure we will all remember. I hope your New Year's trip is stress free as it can be and lots of fun!
creativity and imagination, another good one!
11:06 AMas for how i keep all the balls in the air, i have some help and also i have plenty of practice!
And Mistress160, i googled 'Dominant' in images and thought this one was the most fitting :)
Happy Christmas everyone and thanks for the good wishes.
http://theheronclan.blogspot.com/2009/12/about-dominants.html
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